Most days I'm OK.
I do not spend much time these days obsessing about the adoption that fell through earlier this year or the one that has yet to happen.
Most days I'm OK.
I go about my business. The business of living. The business of trying to be in the present moment.
But then it creeps up on me. Stealthily.
The sadness. The longing.
In many ways yesterday is a good day. Gray and rainy. I spend the day in my jammies, reading the last book in my very favorite fantasy series, hunkered down on the couch, enjoying the cat snuggled up beside me. The house needs to be cleaned, but I ignore it in favor of the life of the mind and imagination.
It is only in the evening when it's finally dark enough for the fireworks to start and I head out with my husband onto our back deck to watch them that I realize how sad I am.
How yet another holiday has almost come and gone.
And we are still not parents.
I try to enjoy the fireworks, but fail and head back inside to finish my book.
Last year at the Independence Day parade we talk about how great it will be "next year" when we have the baby with us. We laugh and wonder if she'll make it all the way through the parade or if the heat and the noise will be too much for her and we'll have to pack up and head out early.
And yet here we are at "next year" and next year's parade...
Still no baby. Still not parents.
Today we head to the parade, but surprisingly, I am not sad. Apparently I had my little moment yesterday. Instead I clap for the marching bands, clap for the veterans from the Korean War, Vietnam, and WWII, eat a forbidden hot dog, laugh at the tiny Chihuahua a few feet away barking like mad and desperate to get at the passing Clydesdale horses, and thoroughly enjoy watching parents with their children all around us enjoying the day.
And hoping that maybe next year...